According to Tim Curry's character in "Kinsey", men wont' reach their sexual peak until they're 40. I told a friend with a big smirk that it means I have 4 more years to go before I reach my prime. Woo Hoo!!!
Well, my friend went an extra mile by looking up some real researches and managed to ruin what I have to look forward to. This is what she wrote to me...
"I looked it up and men peak due to heightened hormone levels between 17 and 25 depending on the sources that you read. Women peak between 30-35 because of 2 different factors 1) hormone levels are highest at that age 2) women become more comfortable with their sexuality and more secure with themselves and feel less guilt. But, women are less likely to take advantage or experience this heightened sexuality if they a) have kids b) are on medications, like antidepressants, which ladies home journal (?) or some other web page claimed that 1 in every 5 women are on them - I highly doubt that though!"
OK, I wasn't serious about being ruined by this discovery. As a matter of fact, I found this to be informative since I was never aware of that big gap between the male and the female's sexual peak. I also wonder whether the reasons mentioned for not taking advantage of this phenomenon are accurate for the majority of the females.
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Hi Tawan;
I think there are numerous reasons, some physiological and some psychological, for the difference in sexual peak for men and women. I know I was not comfortable with myself until at least my early thirties and being comfortable with who you are frees you up to enjoy yourself and your partner. From my own experience and from what I have read in various publications there is a strong connection between sex and emotions for women that does not really exist for men. In other words a woman cannot disassociate the mental and physical acts of intimacy and for a man it is much easier to do so. I don't think I truly enjoyed the physical act until I was at least 26 (when I got married)! I am not sure about the antidepressant info below, but I certainly do relate to the issue of having children in the house. I am 43 (ssshhhh!) and I have a large group of female friends of varying ages and I don't know a single one of them who is on antidepressants! Sounds like the gap is a great reason for the older woman younger man relationships we hear so much about lately! :-)
I gotta say that the meds/children is true for me.
I was a horny thing before having the kid. Now, between being on an antidepressant and generally being tired, I could honestly live without sex. I'm between that 30-35 range.
It's not even a thing of not wanting to be with DH - I used to ahh...have fun alone at least 3-4 times a week.
It ain't happening anymore!
Thanks for the female perspective. These are really insightful comments for a guy like me who obviously had no clue regarding this issue.
I am in my early 40 and I just can't seem to get enough. My boyfriend is in his mid 30 I want it more than him. And yes I am in shape and look good in no clothes. I don't understand this. My sex drive is so high I have to take care of myself.
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